How can I get a better social life? by Lexi Perry
Answer by Lexi Perry:
My number one suggestion is something my ex-boyfriend told me that I'll never forget:
Act like you've been best friends with anyone since birth, and you'll never fail at becoming actual friends with them.
This was in my junior year of high school, he had tons of friends, everyone liked him. He was naturally confident and he had this way about talking to someone as if they'd known each other forever. By the end of the initial conversation, it would be like they had known each other forever.
I had quite a few friends, but I decided to put a new spin on his tactics. I began going to different people in my classes, on my swim team, and sparking up random conversations with jokes thrown in. The trick was my sarcasm. I’d kid around with these people like they were my best friend. I'd poke fun at them and they'd fall for my friendship every single time. It became second nature to treat people this way and the outcome was always identical to the last.
I know it sounds weird, and clearly a bit difficult if you aren't extroverted like me or my ex, but it’s foolproof. As for the hanging out with friends, just ask someone! The worst they can possibly say is no.
Edit: Thanks for all the upvotes and comments! I just want to address one thing – a lot of the people in the comments have been pointing out that introverts may not be adaptable enough to conform to this tactic. While this is true, I believe that if an introvert ever feels awkward or nervous while interacting with another person (I understand this may be a challenge), if you try inserting a light hearted comment or even a simple compliment, it goes a very long way. Me being an extrovert, it's difficult for me to understand how introverts operate. Feel free to comment about your own experiences as an introvert and I'm always happy to hear suggestions to better my advice.